problema, masyadong maraming matalino.
ang siste, di patatalo sa diskurso.
Koya, kung nakinig ka nalang muna,
sakaling nalaman mong parehas lang ang inyong nasa.
kasing nais nating magpasikat
manahimik sandali at saka sumipat.
pag-isipang muli kung mahalaga ang sasabihin,
lamang bigkasin ang nasa isipin
yung salita ka ng salita,
papansinin ang lahat ng makitang mali ng iba,
binalikan naman lahat ng sinabi niya,
ulo ka nalang at kung minsan may mura pang kasama.
naman sa bawal ka ng magsalita,
Lalo na't kung liko at di naayon sa tama ang sinambitla.
akin lamang pag-isipan at pag-isipan mo pa ng ikalawa
kapag sinuring maigi ang sasabihing dalita,
makukuha ang kanilang paggalang at simpatiya
dito, pahahalagahan pa ang iyong mga naibahaging ideya.
This was written in the middle of a
discussion over several policy issues. Ever since I began sitting in meetings,
public hearings and seminars or whatever gathering, I’ve always thought that
the best contribution I could make is to listen to the speaker share his/her
thoughts over a certain issue or topic. From there, I could mull over the
thoughts and arguments he made. If I find several of his/her points illogical
or factually incorrect, I do mental debates. What if this happens or another
situation takes place? If I change a variable, would the same outcome be
revealed or would there be a significant change? To begin with, are my points
even plausible or are they plain irrelevant? Most of the time, I find it a bit
rude when people butt in their comments over a program or policy issue. But
what annoys me most is when these BIRs (best in recitation, that is) start to over-argue (if there’s such a word) their
cases. I mean, I already get your point, so get it over with. Don’t bore me
with your litanies and endless gibbers that this should have been done, that
should not have been the main point or we could have at least used this or that
method. The thing is it was already done—whatever that may be. So, because you can’t
change it for now, what can you do to improve the situation or what is your
proposed solution that is will best benefit your target audience/beneficiaries?
The same goes when you are writing a commentary or whatever paper that requires
your stand or opinion on things. When tweeting or posting your statuses or
comments on popular social networking sites, such a reminder should also be
followed religiously. Think before you click. Or else, you may end up hurting
or offending other people, which totally sucks big time. You don’t want to be
cyberbullied or anything, in the end.
In sum, this Chinese proverb says it best, “to talk much and arrive nowhere is
the same as climbing a tree to catch a fish.” So there—these are just my two
cents worth on speaking your hearts and minds out. It matters that you make
yourself heard. But what matters most is that you are speaking out the right
words at the right time with the right voice. J
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