Words can either give life or destroy
relationships, hence the caution to think first, and then think again before
you speak. Once you spew things out, it'll be difficult to retract. This is
especially true when the message you intend to convey is loaded with
disappointment or anger.
Secondly, choose carefully the people you talk
to. Bad choices would often give you an ill advise and leave you with negative
vibes. It wouldn't solve anything, rather it would blow things out of
Finally, find a friend who would ground things
for you, especially when bad feelings cloud your judgment. People should
not speak too much or make decisions when they're mad. Usually, these are the
things we regret when the situation is settled.
If, in the end, you confided your negative
feelings to the wrong person, then find a way to prevent this from becoming a
seed of discord. Be brave enough to tell the person you feel bad about the
disappointment you have harbored. It is important that you are able address the
issue at once or rumors might spread, making everything worse. If they feel a
bit bad, at the very least you honestly told them how you feel. Hopefully, it
would also show that you are willing to resolve the issue before it escalates
into something much worse.
Again, choose to think before taking action and
be careful with the words you use or you might end up bungling the message you
wish to convey.
I leave you with King Solomon's wise words:
"Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips
comes to ruin (Proverbs 13:3)."
I learned a tough lesson today. If I choose to
be happier, I resolve to be more careful with the words I use, the people I
speak with and the important relationships I have forged with people that
I think I feel better now. Good night. :)
Labels: 2013, 21, bad, experiences, feelings